Money Well Spent: Why

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Chad and I met online a little over 8 years ago. I was at a point in my life where I just wasn’t meeting anyone in person, even though I lived in a city of 1 million people. Honestly the only way I was gonna meet someone was if the FedEx guy asked me out, which…..never happened.

So what’s a girl to do?

So I decided to take my search for love online. After all, I wasn’t tall or shiny enough to compete on The Bachelorette. 😛

It was around this time that online dating as a concept became more mainstream and the stigma that had been long attached began to fall off like stubborn onion skin.

So my next thought was, which site will I choose? I decided to go with a site that a good friend of mine had. Where he met his wife;

So I made an account and sat back and watched the guys flock to me. Ha! Ok, it didn’t happen like that. Really. 😀 In actuality I spent time on the daily going through guy’s profiles from the geographic area and age range I had selected.

After several weeks of using the site, I ran across a profile featuring a cat drinking out of the toilet. If you regularly read my blogs, you’ll know that I eventually married the man that posted that picture.

Today I wanted to give you a few reasons why I think ChristianCafe is unique to other dating websites out there, and why if you are thinking of online dating, you should give it a whirl:

1. Diversity: Although it is a Christian owned dating service, you aren’t pigeon-holed. What I mean is that you don’t have to have a one-size-fits-all faith.

You can come as you are.

2. Even as a new member, you get to enjoy the entire site: There isn’t any restrictions to new members except the inability to give out phone numbers. (This was not an issue for me as I had a one month rule to giving out my number. You can find more of my tips of online dating here)

3. You get one week free: Before you pay, you get to set up your profile and browse others profiles for absolutely free. And if you upload more than one photo of yourself on your profile, you get three more days free.

And at the time I signed up, free was in my budget. 😉

4. Troll blocking: Don’t think that just because you haven’t gone out to a bar or club, you’ll be able to avoid sleazy guys. With online dating, they can troll from the comfort of their one-room apartment in their mama’s basement. But don’t despair. If you run across a trolly sleaze, simply report them to an administrator and they will be blocked within a day.

I know that online dating can be pretty intimidating. But ChristianCafe makes the process simple and fun.

Good luck 😉



Making Geography Work: Tips for Dating Long Distance

Geography sucks. I remember being in High School and during our final exam in World Geography Jr. year, I was the last kid to finish. Actually I didn’t finish, I had to quit because I had stayed so long the teacher needed to go home. True story. You know another time geography sucks? When you finally meet the man of your dreams and he’s several hours away by car. And you can’t drive.

I had met him after paying for a 3 month subscription to (a site we highly recommend, by the way 😉 ), a Christian dating website that featured real-time messaging, and a feature to block any toads met along the way. We met one day after I had sent him a message, a short note about how I had seen his profile and enjoyed reading it and looked forward to talking with him further. I also sent him a wink, an emoticon set up by the site that members were able to send each other, denoting that they’d like to get to know you better. Then I waited. Thankfully it only took a day for him to respond.

Fast forward one month. We had been talking on a daily basis about everything from family to preferred hobbies. Finally we discussed meeting in person. Our first date was pure magic. He drove to my city and I took the local bus to meet him at a restaurant. Conversation was effortless and fun. For the first time in a situation such as this, I felt comfortable actually being myself. After we parted ways for the evening, I found myself in tears. Not because our date was horrible, but because I didn’t know when we’d be able to see each other again. Have I mentioned geography sucks? Well, fear not. Through my husband’s and my -nearly 3 yrs- long distance relationship, we learned ways of shortening the gap between our homes. We hope this list helps you or someone you know to get through the time apart.

1. Skype is AMAZING! I had installed Skype after the birth of my first nephew in an attempt to keep in touch–we are also long distance. Skype, or FaceTime, is great when you miss each other but you need more than a phone call

2. Talk about EVERYTHING, no matter how difficult. When we were dating, my future husband and I only saw each other once a month. Towards the end of our long distance stint we were thankfully managing every other week, but until then, things could get a bit bumpy at times. When we were together, we wanted to enjoy each other’s company. Since we only saw each other for two days out of a few weeks, if a conflict arose, we worked to solve it right away so we could enjoy ourselves. 

3. Embrace your separateness. Despite the difficulty being long distance, there was part of me that enjoyed it. At least in the beginning. Being apart meant that I had my life, he had his, but then we had our life together. Being able to recognize your separateness is something that can definitely improve a relationship. I’m sure if we had lived in the same place in the beginning, the focus would have mostly been on our relationship together more than what we each brought to it. Use this time apart to strengthen yourself and your interests. I guarantee it’ll make you a better partner for your mate.

4. Maintain a Healthy Diet. I fell into this trap during our long distance relationship and had the mindset that every time I traveled to see my honey, I was on vacation and therefore, I could have the extra-large plate of nachos. If it’s been several months between visits, maybe you can get away with this, but if you are traveling every other week, it’s best to try to stick to healthier options.

5. Pray together. This technique should probably be embraced long after the distance closes, but it’s especially important when you are long distance. It’s mentally draining on both of you to maintain a relationship through long distance, and prayer offers you spiritual support you can thrive on.

I hope you found this list useful. Please feel free to share this with anyone you know that could benefit.

Remember you are most certainly not alone.

Cheers! 🙂


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